Tell Your Children You Love them

Because the moment they feel like they have to keep a secret from you, you're not doing your job as a parent. 

That's part of why a lot of children end up molested. 

A lot of times, child molestation occurs by a family member or other trusted adult. The offender already knows or believes they can get away with it, because they know the child won't be believed. 

Your child may feel like they have to keep secrets from you. They might feel like they are going to disappoint you, and children should never feel that way. That's why children can't come to their parents to tell them they're depressed. Why they feel like they can't come to their parents to tell them they are being abused. 

If trust is not built with your child with small things, they won't come to you with big things. 

Tell your children you loved them. Hug them tight. Make sure they KNOW that you love them.

Because the moment they feel like they're not loved, not worthy, that they have to keep secrets, that they don't feel safe, that's when secrets start to surface. 

That's when they feel like they have no way out except to unalive themselves. Why they feel like they can't tell you that they're being abused by someone they're meant to trust. 

Whether it's physical abuse, mental abuse, verbal abuse, etc. abuse is abuse. Your child should find their safe space in you. Regardless of how old they are. 

And if your child ever tells you they are uncomfortable by someone, or someone is touching them, or abusing them, BELIEVE THEM. Do not blow them off, because after that, they will never come to you about it again.